Dealing with Separation and Divorce – Free Self-Assessment

Many factors go into successfully navigating the adjustments of separation and divorce as well as establishing your life afterwards. This self-assessment is designed to help you consider where you are now and what you may need to work on next. Your results are private as your name and contact information are never requested.

Assessment

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Am I Taking Charge of My Life?*

	Strongly Disagree	Disagree	Neutral	Agree	Strongly Agree
I have trouble accepting divorce as my reality
I feel like life is out of control
Divorce-related changes are still hard to adapt to
I feel like a victim of divorce

Am I Untying the Emotional Knot?*

	Strongly Disagree	Disagree	Neutral	Agree	Strongly Agree
I wish my spouse would tell me why
I think I’m the only one feeling like I do
I still feel love or hate for my former spouse
I want my former spouse’s behavior to make sense to me

Am I Healing Inside?*
Strongly Disagree Disagree Neutral Agree Strongly Agree
I am grieving the loss of my marriage and dreams
I feel rejected and/or lonely
I have fears about the future
My self-esteem has been wounded by divorce

Am I Getting Past Anger?*

	Strongly Disagree	Disagree	Neutral	Agree	Strongly Agree
I think a lot about how my spouse did this to me
I feel angry and bitter
At times I hope my ex suffers in some way
I can’t forgive the wrongs done to me

Am I Renewing My Spirit and Soul?*

	Strongly Disagree	Disagree	Neutral	Agree	Strongly Agree
I wonder if God still loves me
I’m not sure if God will forgive me
I wonder why God didn’t save my marriage
I don’t know if I can ask God to help me

Am I Choosing Thoughts that Help Me Heal?*

	Strongly Disagree	Disagree	Neutral	Agree	Strongly Agree
Sometimes thoughts about the past haunt me
I think a lot about my ex’s behavior
I often think I’m stuck in my circumstances
I feel doomed to live a lonely life

Am I Choosing Actions that Help Me Heal?*

	Strongly Disagree	Disagree	Neutral	Agree	Strongly Agree
I am struggling with the realities of daily life
I struggle when I have to deal with my ex
I haven’t felt refreshed for a while
I wish I knew how to help my children adjust

Am I Planning for a Positive Future?*

	Strongly Disagree	Disagree	Neutral	Agree	Strongly Agree
Divorce has diminished my sense of purpose in life
I feel like I need another person to make me feel whole
Trusting again is hard
I have no realistic dreams for the future