God Help Me

Are you feeling weary from separation and divorce?

No joke.

Divorce can wear you out.  It can zap all your strength and leave you discouraged and lonely.  Emotions and conflicts weigh you down like a wet blanket laid on top of daily responsibilities.

It is easy to feel afraid, hopeless, and alone.

There’s Hope

Your most powerful resource is just three words away.  “God help me.”

• When you are at your wit’s end,
• When you are seeking direction,
• When you are facing conflict with your soon-to-be-ex…

God help me!”

When your heart is sick with grief, know that God is the great physician.

How to Talk with God about Divorce

Talk with God simply, sincerely, and respectfully. You don’t need fancy words. Realize that nobody, including you, can be good enough to merit God’s love, but he gives it to you anyway.

Clear the air by asking God for forgiveness and by forgiving those who have offended you.  Okay, I know, that last part is hard.  If you can’t forgive yet, then ask God to help you try to forgive so that you can lift the burden of anger and frustration from your heart.

Thank God for his goodness and for loving you. Tell him your frustrations.  Tell him what makes you angry, hurt, or lonely. Seek his guidance.

Pray in a way that is consistent with the teachings and Spirit of God. Don’t ask for things that you know in your heart are wrong or incompatible with a follower of Christ.  Acknowledge God as being God.

Pray believing these things:

• God cares about you and your trials.
• God is with you.
• God loves you.
• God wants what is best for you.
• God knows best and knows the big picture. Ask that his will be done.
• God listens.
• Prayer can affect outcomes.

When You Don’t Know What to Pray

Even if you don’t know what to say to God, you can still pray. God already knows your heart. If words just won’t come, quiet yourself and simply say, God, here I am. You know my heart.

Spend Each Day with God

Separation and divorce either drives us to God or away from him.

• If you’re angry with God, tell him.
• If you’re drawing closer to God, thank him.
• Need steps for overcoming guilt and regrets? Ask him for help.

God’s strength and guidance are yours for the asking.  No, your troubles won’t evaporate but you will definitely find more comfort on your journey.  Talking to God is amazingly easy.  God is all powerful and He loves you very much!

Practical Guidance for Healing from Divorce

As a counselor and a person who has been through divorce, I believe people need concrete practical guidance for coping with and healing from divorce.  I want to help you deal with specific realities such as fear, loneliness, and loss as well as tough issues such as communicating with your ex or soon-to-be-ex, helping children cope with divorce, and much more. It is why I wrote Peace After Divorce. 

Working through barriers to healing from divorce takes knowledge, intent, effort and prayer.  It isn’t easy.  But, you can move to a more joyful place!