Will the Pain of Being Cheated on Ever Go Away?

Your chest literally hurts from the heartbreak. Your doctor can find no physical problem. But, inside you know it is likely the stress and strain of what has happened to your marriage.

He’s gone.* He’s found someone else and has made it clear he isn’t coming back. As much as you want to hate him, you still love him. You wonder why.

Finding out someone cheated on you doesn’t just wipe away your love instantly when you’ve loved deeply.

It’s normal for you to hurt under these circumstances. When you’ve worked and prayed to save your marriage and it still fails it is bewildering and more than frustrating.

It’s tough.

Take heart in knowing that God knows what you’re going through. God is close to the brokenhearted. He cares and will see you through.

Yes, it can be a bitter pill to take if your spouse has clearly bailed out of your marriage. Yet, the healing power of God can help you to find the strength to let go of the past, the courage to take new steps, and the discernment to move to a better place.

The alternative is to live a life of bitterness, resentment, and loss. That’s no life.

The pain of loss doesn’t have to last forever. Let God hold you closely and walk with you through your time of grief. Let him give you hope for a new tomorrow. In his arms you will find peace.

Encouragement From His Word

Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light.”    Matthew 11:28-30 (NLT)

Talk with God

Reflect on this post and talk with God about it.  Tell him your burdens and ask him to give you rest for your soul.  Lean into him as you face each day.

Get More Help…

• Peer Support Online — Join my Facebook Group – The Separation & Divorce Christian Community
• Need In-Person Support? –Your church can offer a Peace after Divorce Workshop and Support Group.  Email this link to the appropriate person at your church Start a Group.

*I write from a woman’s perspective but the concepts in this post apply to men as well.