Really, healing from divorce takes courage. I never thought about it that way until I started to work on healing. Healing takes intention and determination.
It takes courage to pick up the pieces of your life and move forward. It takes courage to work through the emotions rather than stuffing them inside. It takes courage to decide you will not let your divorce define who you are. It takes courage to deal with your ex in a way that does not have negative spin-off on you or your children. And it takes courage to be determined to build a positive new life.
But when you are feeling weak and broken, how do you muster courage? Sometimes you have to reach deep inside. Having courage is not an emotion. Having courage is a choice.
It is a choice to get help even when you want to stay private. It’s a choice to read about and understand the ins and outs of divorce recovery. It’s a choice to act on what you learn. It’s a choice to move forward one step at a time even when you have to take one step backwards to go two steps forward.
Having courage to heal from divorce is the opposite of wallowing in divorce. We have to make the choice to have courage, but it takes strength and determination. Divorce can make it hard to find that strength. So what do you do?
Write yourself a list of supportive statements.
Here’s an example:
• I will do whatever it takes to recover from divorce.
• I will learn strategies for healing from divorce.
• I will act in ways that lead to healing.
• I will believe in myself.
• I can have a better life.
• I am worthy.
• I can heal from divorce.
• God will help me every minute, every day if I just ask.
When you are feeling like you need to muster your courage to heal from divorce, pull out your list and act on your list. And, yes, healing from divorce requires empowerment from outside ourselves. We need God in a big way.
Are you ready to reap the benefits of having courage? Get started today by making your personal list.
Christian Thought:
Be strong in the Lord and his mighty power. Ephesians 6:10 NIV
Ready to Reflect?
Our Free Self-Assessment helps you think through where you are in various areas that can contribute to finding peace after divorce. Take just a few minutes to reflect by clicking the button below and answering the questions. There are no wrong answers, just food for thought that may help you reflect on your next steps in coping and healing.
Post updated 5/6/2026